Eight Principles of Attachment Parenting

 

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Attachment Parenting
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Korenna Barto Reynard works with individuals and families as a life coach and counselor in Northern California. In addition to her work at first Kiss Through First Kid, Korenna Barto Reynard has also been a trainer, parent educator, and small-group leader for Attachment Parenting International.

Attachment parenting holds that a strong and nurturing parent-child connection is the best way of raising secure, well-adjusted children with a capacity for empathy. In order to help build these connections, Attachment Parenting International offers eight core parenting principles. They are:

1. Prepare positively for pregnancy, childbirth, and parenthood. This involves gathering as much information as possible about all stages of the process, so that one has the knowledge to respond to situations as they arise.
2. Feed with respect and love. Ideally, this means breastfeeding infants and offering healthy food to older children according to their hunger cues. Doing so empowers children to eat when they are hungry and stop when full.
3. Respond to children with sensitivity and understanding. Attachment parenting holds that all behaviors are expressions of needs. If parents respond with empathy, children learn to self-regulate.
4. Engage in nurturing touch. Skin-to-skin contact is essential for the healthy development of children. This continues from baby-wearing and bathing in the first months to hugs, back rubs, and cuddling for older children.
5. Participate in parenting as a 24-hour commitment. Attachment parenting often encourages co-sleeping so that parents can efficiently meet the physical and emotional needs of young children through the night.
6. Provide loving and consistent care. Parental care is ideal at all times, but a regular alternate caregiver who has bonded with the child can be an appropriate fallback.
7. Use positive discipline always. Loving and respectful dealing with misbehavior allows a child to develop his or her own sense of right and wrong, as well as an understanding of others.
8. Aim to balance personal and family life. Attachment parenting believes that parents are most effective when they are physically and emotionally healthy, and when their expectations of themselves are realistic.

An Introduction to Circling

 

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The Circling Institute in Berkeley
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An experienced helping professional, Korenna Barto Reynard has been coaching and counseling in northern California since the early 2000’s. Korenna Barto Reynard serves as a core faculty member at The Circling Institute in Berkeley.

Circling is an intensive spiritual experience that allows participants to see and be seen in an authentic way. It transforms a person’s way of relating by calling his or her attention to the present truth of interactions.

Through mutual sharing about these interactions, the participant begins to identify contrasts between his or her own self-perceptions and how he or she truly lives and behaves in relationship. These inconsistencies are often the places in which a person unknowingly creates distance with others. By illuminating this process and revealing a person’s truth, circling allows that individual to show up as his or her own self.

A Circling session starts as a group or facilitator focuses their non-judgmental and open attention on a participant. Their purpose is to connect and learn about the person by sharing their in-the-moment experience of the circle and by asking about what the participant is thinking and feeling.

Because Circling focuses exclusively on the present moment, it helps participants to let go of expectations and set ideas about who they are. This can reveal the truth that resides at a person’s core and create truly genuine connections. In some cases, these connections can be more “real” than any the participant has experienced.